The Power of Leadership Stories
“Over the years I have become convinced that we learn best—and change—from hearing stories that strike a chord within us… Those in leadership positions who fail to grasp or use the power of stories risk failure for their companies and for themselves.” – John Kotter, Harvard Business School Professor, and author of Leading Change
Sharing your leadership story publicly is not about blowing your own horn or being boastful, nor is it about fantasizing or spreading untruths. Good leaders understand and embrace the opportunities to leverage their stories to create a clear and compelling message that energizes, inspires, and offers hope.
Jeff Gothelf, noted author, coach, consultant, and keynote speaker, in his Harvard Business Review article “Storytelling Can Make or Break Your Leadership” (Oct 2020), offers five characteristics of effective storying telling in the following link: Storytelling Can Make or Break Your Leadership (hbr.org) and a summary of which are: be audience specific; contextualize your story; humanize your story; make it action oriented; and keep it humble to show capacity for growth and development, and to build trust. I have had the opportunity to work with a number of aspiring leaders to develop and share their leadership stories, e.g., challenges in life that led to learning, individual and team achievements, a higher calling, etc.
As I reflect on my own journey and a snippet of what I’ve shared with various audiences on occasion, I hope it provides a glimpse of what motivates me, an invite to know me and how I think, and a bit of hope to others. I think about my childhood and growing up in Detroit, MI, the oldest of three siblings with a single parent mom and the first person in our family to graduate from high school. I think about surrogate parents and the challenges of attending nine schools in my K-12 experience and changing schools every year in high school (two states, MI and SC). And not to be overlooked, I think about the life lessons learned from little league and varsity sports, dreaming of playing football in college and beyond. Those dreams never materialized, but they developed a healthy competitive spirit along with purpose, something to strive for that was constructive, and built grit.
Although I did not get to play football on a college team as I dreamed of as a child, I served on one of the most prominent teams in the world as a proud member of the United States Air Force before retiring after 22-years of active-duty service and going on to become an urban public school district superintendent. I never saw a down as a player in a college stadium, however, thanks to some great coaches, mentors, and supportive role models in my journey, I did make it into the south end zone in Memorial Stadium at the University of Oklahoma to receive my doctorate in education.
Your leadership stories and life lessons can provide powerful sharing opportunities to connect with staff, members of your leadership team, aspiring leaders, and mentees. Understanding and sharing your story not only gives insights into who you are, how you think, what motivates you, and/or the hurdles you’ve overcome in life, it can also serve as an inspiration to many, including young people who need an example to lean into.

“I have always believed that the single most important task we have as a nation is to make sure our young people can go as far as their dreams and hard work will take them. It is the single most important thing we can do for our country’s future. And we’ve got to do it together.” President Barack Obama
The national debate about whether or not to teach critical race theory in schools has been in the news and has garnered attention and ire for quite some time. Critical race theory is rooted in academic theory that racism is ingrained in the history of the United States and still impacts laws in place today. Opponents of critical race theory argue that the teaching tells a story, which paints white males as inherently racist, sexist, or oppressive, whether consciously or unconsciously.
In a recent conversation with a professional acquaintance, I was asked about the difference between coaching and mentoring. At the time, my response was muddled by a flood of memories from my own experiences that has since given me pause to reflect on the vast number of coaches and mentors who have made a significant difference in my life (personally and professionally).
The Wallace Foundation has released its second of three influential principal pipeline research reports, The Role of Assistant Principals: Evidence and Insights for Advancing School Leadership (April 2021). This report written by Vanderbilt University and Mathematica researchers, summarized that the number of assistant principals has grown substantially in recent years, and with reexamination, the role of assistant principals could do more to leverage support for educational equity, school improvement, and principal effectiveness. The overarching purpose of the study according to the researchers, was to “shine a spotlight and synthesize the evidence” about assistant principals over the last 20 years. Some of the key findings suggest that assistant principal growth has become more prevalent (83%), educators of color and women face institutional barriers to advancement, assistant principals could help promote improved school climate and student outcomes, and the relationship between assistant principals’ experience and future principal performance is mixed. However, specific roles of assistant principals can matter for school outcomes (e.g., coaching teachers, visibility in the classroom, and paying attention to cultural inclusivity). Far too often assistant principals get pigeonholed into roles that limit their pathway to a principalship which is further amplified by ambiguous performance expectations and inadequate systems of support. The researchers acknowledge that the evidence base is still nascent. The next Wallace Foundation report will examine Principal Preparation and Professional Development due out later this year. To access the full Role of the Assistant Principals research report, visit the Wallace Foundation Knowledge Center at:
As educators who are dedicated to laying foundations upon which systems of equity can build, we must look inward with honesty, compassion, and openness. The Leadership Academy recently rebranded a list of six research-based leadership dispositions that are crucial for leaders addressing issues of bias, inequity, and race. One of the dispositions asserts that as leaders, our education equity work must be predicated on our understanding of our own personal values, assumptions, beliefs, and even our own unconscious biases.
This past weekend, I said farewell to a good friend (Mickey Alston) who passed away at age 81. Mickey was a retired New York City police detective (and an Air Force veteran) who I first met through his daughter (Jackie) while stationed at Tinker Air Force Base, OK. Jackie, her husband (JC) and their son, Justin were stationed at Tinker around the same time my wife and I were reassigned and arrived from Germany. Mickey (and his wife) would visit Oklahoma City from New York City periodically to spend time with Jackie and her family. We would sometimes get together for fellowship and outings at the homes of various friends to cook out, play cards (bid whist) and partake in adult beverages.
“The problem and inequities that have plagued our education system since long before COVID will still be with us even after the virus is gone. So, it is our responsibility, it our privilege, to take this moment and to do the most American thing imaginable: To forge opportunity out of crisis, to draw on our resolve, our ingenuity, and our tireless optimism, as a people, and build something better than we’ve ever had before.” – U.S. Education Secretary Miguel Cardona
The Wallace Foundation has released its seminal research report, How Do Principals Affect Students and Schools: A Systematic Synthesis of Two Decades of Research (Feb 2021). As a national independent foundation, with a $1.6 billion endowment, Wallace has been heavily engaged in 20-years of principal research and freely sharing evidence-based lessons on school leadership (among other areas) as a part of their mission to “foster improvement and enrichment for marginalized children”. The primary purpose of the research report was to synthesize what has been learned about the relationship between school leadership and student achievement and other outcomes as well (e.g., student attendance and chronic absenteeism). While principals are second only to teachers in terms of in-school factors impacting student achievement, one key take-away from the research findings emphasizes that the importance of principals is not stated strongly enough as there is strong evidence that having an effective principal contributes substantially to student achievement. To access the full research report visit the Wallace Foundation Knowledge Center at: